Is she damaged? 

There is a young woman in this world who wants nothing more than to be happy. Lost a mother at a youngish age which effected her more that she ever realised. She has spent her days watching other people doing every day things with their mother as she has grown. Shopping, taking short breaks, having afternoon tea, going for spa days. She has always wondered what she would be doing with her mother had she still been here. 

She puts on a front for the world. Every morning applying the face that she thinks is acceptable to society. Just wanting I be accepted for who she is. Over time she became very close to her grandfather. Confiding her thoughts, experiences and concerns to him. They became fast friends after a distant childhood relationship with him. He is her number one, her main man, her voice of reason and her source of sanity. When the whole world seems to have gone mad he is the one person who shares her opinions and outlooks. He helps her through tough times.  

December 2016 all this came crashing down when he was hospitalised. He never came home. Despite the fact that she has a boyfriend, grandmother, father and brother left she feels totally alone because her confidant is gone. Still she puts on that front and carries on as best she can. Only letting the tears flow when she knows that she is alone. 

Faced with health issues of her own she tries to keep her spirits up.  Not always able to do so but she tries her best. 

The boyfriend. Not a perfect human but who is. Damaged by his upbringing yet not realising it. Father at a young age yet not in touch with his child. Part of her believes that this may be down to his own aggressive actions in the past. He is the type of person who is always longing for acceptance. Wants to be the best at everything yet not willing to work for this. Happy to take credit for the littlest of things even if it wasn’t totally his achievement. Useless with finances yet never appreciates everything she does to give him the life that he is currently living. He has it all in her eyes, yet he is never satisfied. Always wanting more.

The grandmother. Another broken soul, lost the love of her life but still tries her hardest to make the best of every day. The strongest person she knows. To have gone through so much and still manage a smile is more than an acomplishment. The girl will do all she can to help her grandmother and always will as she is the only constant person left in her life. 

The father. Another person who has been through so much loss. Has worked hard to provide for his children but you can see it has been a struggle. Being a single parent was not something he thought he would have to deal with. He has done a good job despite a few hiccups along the way. She loves her father and would do anything to help him. He now has a new girlfriend and despite the baggage she thinks he is happy and this in turn lessens the worry she has once felt for him.

The brother. Never present but she loves him more than he realises. Querky, dry sense of humour but that’s what makes him who he is. She could be in pieces but one call from him can lift her spirits, not that he knows this.

Despite all these people, she still feels totally alone. The loss she has been through in her short life is becoming more that she can bear. No outlet to discuss feelings, thought and worries with. No one that she feels could understand anyway. 

Powering through day by day trying to better herself but not necessarily achieving this ever moving goal. Another day another drama. Will it ever end. 

Upcycling – Nightstands

I had a new carpet fitted in my bedroom over the weekend and with this being the only component left to modernise the room from the old lady style decor of the person I bought the house from I felt that I wanted my night stands to match the room but I didn’t want to buy new ones just yet. I decided that vinyl wrapping them would hide the ugly worn marks that they had and bring them in line with the new colour scheme of the room.

Here is how they turned out.  The first one took a bit longer and as really ain’t a pro at this it did take some time to get them right.  I am really pleased with the finish and it was the perfect project for a rainy day.

I started from the top and worked my way down the cabinet. The top drawer was the trickiest because of the frosted window in it but after some perseverance I got there in the end! The handles were removed to give a professional finish.

 

Here are some half way through pics showing the progress I was making.  It may have been very slow progress but I was progress non the less! perseverance is key when it comes to vinyl wrapping.  It really isn’t for those with a short temper.

                            

Cheeky one down, one to go shot!

I was really pleased with the difference that a clean finish made.  Almost makes them look like new.

I would love to know you thoughts on this upcycling project and I would like to hear about your projects.

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Feb 2017 – Summary

 

So another month over and done with.  All in all it has been a pretty good one. During the last month I have had some ups and downs.

birthdayI have had another birthday which now puts me at the grand old age of 29! Scary right?! This was the first birthday without my Gramps here which was real hard.  Opening my card signed just from my Nan, not having the phone call with his soft cheery voice to sing happy birthday to me it all got the better of me but I just keep thinking ‘thank god he is no longer in pain!’.

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Over the last couple of months I have had some serious health issues which could have totally altered the course of my future, or at least where I thought my future was heading, and yesterday I got some great news from the hospital confirming that the result have come back to say what I had hoped they would and they don’t need to see me again.  I have never felt such relief like I did when I read that letter!  However, having this scare has really made me put things into perspective.  It made me realise all the things that I have been missing out on which I intend to change!! Holidays being the first.  I want to see more sights, both home and away.  It got me thinking that if that was the end I was not happy with what I have achieved.  It is now time to set things right!

Business.pngAs a result of the realisation of my mortality I have decided to put everything I have into revamping and rebranding my online store.  Keeping it inline with this blog I decided to make it into a brand and I have started to put some of the wall art ideas I have had over the last year or so onto the drawing board.  I have actually started to list some new items which have taken off quite well. below are a few of the new items I have listed.

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you can find the rest of my items on my Made by Mel tab in the main menu.  I am determined to make this a success and I plan on putting my all into it.

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I have been trying lately to get back into my crafts and I have made quite a promising start I think.  I have been trying my hand to candle printing to see if it was something think I would like as I am in to my candles big time.  Dan thinks I secretly own shares in a candle company because of the amount I have! Here’s a sneak peak at my first attempts.

summaryBirthdays:

1

New shop listings:

4

Books read: 1

Meet Me at Beachcomber Bay (reviewed)

Book reading: 2

Secrets of Happiness by Lucy Diamond

A Year of Being Single by Fiona Collins

That seems to be everything I can think that has happened within the last month and as I said all in all its been a good month.  I will be trying to keep up to date on everyone else’s monthly round ups as I love to know what everyone has been getting up to. How has your last month been? Let me know… Speak to you all soon.

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Our Nest Wall Art

our-nestNew home / new family “Our Nest” vinyl wall art. New item in the eBay store. Why not head over and check out some of my other items. XO

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Not All Who Wander Quote Wall Art

no-all-who-wanderNew wall art added to our eBay store today.
Why not head over and check out some of my other items. Link in bio. XO
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Compass Vintage Wall Art

compassNew item for sale on my eBay Shop. Compass style wall art. Perfect for any room in the house. Why not head over to the store and check out some of my other items. More items being added daily. XO

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2017 Home Trends – Low Maintenance Indoor Plants

There is a vast range of indoor plants that would look great in any style room.  A few of my favourites are below:

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Succulents

If you have a tendency to kill every plant you have ever owned, like me, then these are for you. They are a very low maintenance plant and are ideal for the amateur gardener. They are fantastic at retaining water so they don’t need to be watered as often as most plants. They are best suited to window sills, shelves or tabletops and are a great addition to any room.

 

 

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Cacti

These plants come in a full range of different shapes, sizes and colours so I am sure that you will be able to find something that suits your room. All cacti have the ability to flower so if this is what you are going for then they would need to be watered regularly during growing season. Cacti can give your home the California touch which paired with modern, minimalistic décor.

 

There are a load more varieties of hard wearing plants that you could choose.  Why not share you thoughts on what you would like to see in your home this coming year.

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Book Review – Meet Me at Beachcomber Bay by Jill Mansell

I enjoyed this book enormously.  Given the weather being of the wet variety lately images of warm Cornish sunshine was a welcome distraction.
This is the first book I have read by Jill Mansell and I am really glad that I did. This story is based in St Carys, Cornwall.  Jill Mansell sets the scenes so perfectly in this book that it really makes you want to get in your car and see the beautiful, picturesque seaside town for yourself. This is very much a ‘boy meets girl’ story on multiple platforms and despite a number of detours to the longing that is the love story of ‘Meet me at Beachcomber Bay’ they all get ‘The One’ in the end.
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Clemency, the main character of this story is a very down to earth and likable estate agent  with a rather snobby step sister of the same age who goes by the name of Belle.  Despite their obvious differences they get on pretty well until Belle turns up with new guy who Clemency happens to have met 3 years earlier while on a return plane home.  During their plane journey, there was an obvious connection felt by Clemency and Sam, after which she slips him her business card hoping to keep in touch and take things to the next level.  Much to Clemency’s dismay Sam unable to offer her what she was hoping for and reveals that unfortunately he is married.  The two part ways thinking that they will never see each other again, until Sam turns up at a viewing for a new flat as Clem’s sisters fiancé.
The second unexpected romance comes from Clemency’s work mate, Ronan.   Ronan is a bit of a ladies man but the fact that he is gorgeous, tanned and very rarely found together, a nice guy means that the ladies of St Carys are powerless to resist his charm.  Recently single, Ronan find himself in bed with none other than the lady who delivers their mail to work and a client of Ronans, Kate.  Whilst laying in each others arms after what could only be described as a passionate, unplanned night they hear a knock at the door.  It is Ronan’s ex-girlfriend, who despite their best attempts to ignore her, takes it upon herself to recite very badly written poetry about the love she has for Ronan.  Once she realises that she was not getting a response from him, anger descends and she shouts at the front door that give him a week and he will have another tart in his bed.  This leads to Ronan confirming to Kate that he has only been single for about 24 hours which leaves Kate feeling discussed with herself as one night stands were definitely out of her character. Other than work interactions and other revelation happening in Ronan’s life, they don’t really get the chance to get close again until an unexpected arrival later on brings them back together.
Finally, the third romance involves Clemency’s upper class sister Belle.  Having arrived in St Carys with Sam she is completely unaware that he sister as Sam are already acquainted.  Nobody tells her otherwise and their introduction is carried out as if they had just met.  Belle boasts to Clemency about how perfect Sam is and how lucky she is to have found someone so wonderful that she can really spend the rest of her life with.  Belle, having pretty much invited herself to move to St Carys with Sam, quit her job in the city and sold her flat in preparation for the move to sunny Cornwall.  Once they have arrived and start moving into the flat that Clemency was tasked with finding for them Belle decides to take a walk to the town to get flowers and other such niceties to add a female touch to Sam’s humble abode.  Whilst out she literally bumps into a fitness junkie and the answer to her deepest desires.
This story is brimming with feel good vibes and is perfect for a pick me up!  What Jill Mansell has created here is so much more than just a Boy meets Girl predictable tale.  I was completely able to get totally lost in the world she has created and despite some of the trials and tribulations that these characters face it is still a very uplifting and warm style of writing.  Just thinking back about this book gives me a warm glow.  So if your feeling the January/February blues this one if definitely for you.
I gave this book 5/5 stars on Goodreads
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As always, I hope you have enjoyed my review and I look forward to your feedback.

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Special Scents

Scents are everywhere we go.  Some we love and others we loathe.  I am not sure if this is a personal thing or if everyone else experiences the same thing but I often get a whiff of something (not necessarily perfume or aftershave) and I am instantly whipped up into a day dream of what that particular smell reminds me of.

For example, fresh bread.  Most people would think of your local supermarket or bakery fresh bread isolated on white background cutoutwhen you think of this smell.  Me, I think of a little village called Nelson which is situated in South Wales, UK.  Nelson is a relatively close knit community set in the valleys of the welsh hills.  In the heart of the village in a back lane, which if you didn’t know it was there you could completely miss it, is a small family bakery.  On any given morning between the hours of 2-5am passing through the village you find yourself surrounded by the warm and comforting smell that is fresh baked bread.  Just the though of this gives me a warm glow.  I didn’t actually encounter this glorious early morning secret until I was about 16 years of age but ever since then, when ever I smell fresh bread I am right back there in the village.

Another scent that completely takes me away are those of perfumes worn by people I love and have 10210628-1112loved.  Having lost my mother when I was 17; her perfume is one of the most memorable.  Chanel No5.  When ever I smell this rich heavenly scent, I close my eyes and for that split second I have my mother back again.  I drift off into a world of make believe imagining all the different things that we would be doing now that I have grown up and am not such a bitch any more.  Alas, daydreaming is a much cherished past time of mine.

Finally, my favourite perfume is inspired by a childhood memory.  It was Christmas day m42060_p2257_princ_heroand I must have been around 5 years old when my parents got me a Tiny Tears doll.  I was thrilled.  she blinked, drank, cried and wee’d! She was my most favourite gift.  I took her everywhere with me.

A few years back in was in a perfume shop looking for something new as I was bored of my old perfume.  I saw it there on the shelf a slender bottle with what looked like an un-blossomed flower growing inside.  I really caught my eye as it was different to all the others.  I asked the assistant if I could smell this perfume to which she obliged.   As soon as she passed me the little sheet of card she had doused in the scent I took a sniff and there is was.   Christmas day when I was 5 years old and I opened the box to get out my nice shiny new doll, the smell was identical!  I was blown away! I had had years of enjoyment with that doll and this scent reminded me of all those good times.  It is for that reason and that reason alone that I still wear that scent to this day.

Without scents the world would be a very dull place. So when things are getting on top of you. take a moment, stop and breathe.  You will find that even in the most stressful of situations a little scent can always brighten you day!

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via Daily Prompt: Scent